As a little girl growing up you sit down and watch your princess movies where each and every one of them falls in love and everything turns out perfect. They meet their prince and get to live happily ever after. They never have any arguments or any faults or heart aches in these movies. So you grow up thinking that love is going to be this easy in your real life, but your parents forget to mention that your life isn’t a fairytale and things are much harder. I remember the first time I met my first love. I thought he was the greatest guy in the world and I knew right away I was going to spend the rest of my life with him.
One of the things that I noticed immediately when I first me him was how safe and secure he made me feel. I remember meeting him that very first day and realizing how good I felt just being with him. It was as if a burden had been lifted from my shoulders. I suddenly felt free and relaxed, as if I had to worry about nothing in life ever again. He was always very supportive of my ideas and my decisions and encouraged me to go ahead and do what I wanted the most. He provided me with the background support that I had always needed to further my plans but had felt so insecure before.
He had a knack of making me laugh and feel good about myself and whatever was going on at that time. Aside from making me feel emotionally stable, safe, and secure, he also made me feel very secure financially. He made it look so easy, as if I would never have to worry about money ever again. He made me feel that I could trust him with no matter what. This is perhaps the reason that I fell in love with him in the first place, because of how he good he made me feel about myself: very safe, secure, and sound. He was always trying to involve me into his life and with us it is always ‘us’ and never ‘you’ or ‘I’.
He was always willing to do fun projects and things together, and we were always looking to go to new, fun, and exciting places to spend our time together. I thought that I had met my prince, things couldn’t possibly ever go wrong. Well, let me tell you after about 3 years of dating things went wrong. People always say after you make it past the first 2 years, the “honeymoon” stage is over and that’s where you really start to tell if your relationship is going to make it. Let’s just say ours didn’t. We started fighting constantly and never hanging out with each other more.
The lying started and the hanging out with just the “boys” started. He was constantly coming home drunk from bars while I sat up and waited for him to come home. I slowly saw this wonderful thing we used to have fall apart in front of my eyes. I tried everything to try and make us work again and get us back to what we had had before, however nothing was working. He didn’t seem like he wanted to try anymore and I wasn’t going to waste my time anymore with being with someone who didn’t want the same in return. My so called “fairytale” I thought I had was no more.
So as you see, romance is not the same in real life. What you see in the movie clearly doesn’t happen in real life. Your mother doesn’t warn you about the players, the liars, the cheaters, the controlling ones and the list goes on and on. You have to go through life searching for that perfect one while along the way get eaten alive by all the not so perfect ones. Unfortunately it doesn’t happen in one shot. I’m not saying it’s impossible to find love and hey if you find one like the movies more power to you. However, I don’t get my hopes up anymore.